It seems as though the month of February has been more about break ups than love. Facebook is the obvious indicator of this trend, by notifying me that a good heap of my friends have a change in "relationship status..." including Facebook celeb Justin Ross Lee. This got me thinking a lot about relationships, the course they take, and break ups. A metaphor I once read that I felt is very appropriate goes like this:
You start off both driving brand new shiny cars. It's everything you ever dreamed of! You can't even believe that it's finally yours. Then somewhere down the road you start to drive at different speeds. He turns left, you turn right. Then one day CRASH! It came out of nowhere, you were completely blind sided. Then insurance comes along, and one of you decide to try your luck and get a NEW shiny car, while the other one is trying to repair the broken one. I think this is a great metaphor because the thing that we often forget is that, if only one of you is willing to "fix it" you may be left in the dust.
Here's the good news... while fixing the car, you realize all that you are capable of. The thing's that you were able to stand through, the support you offered, and the thing's you expect from...well a car. The thing is, you and your ex no longer share the belief that it's worth fixing. Besides, who wants a car that even after repair still stalls when you try to shift gears.
I am not saying break ups are easy, they can be one of the hardest thing's to endure. It almost seems as though every nerve in your body has to feel that heartbreak. However, you have to stop and think that this person you were dating...they took a long look at you and the relationship, and thought "No, thanks. I'll try my luck elsewhere." This is the most painful part, and the most rewarding. Anyone who assesses you or your relationship as disposable is not worthy of your time or tears.
Okay, still not working....Well how about a to do/ not to do list to guide you through this!
DO:
1. Have a ladies night (or guys night)- there is something about being with your friends and not having to impress the opposite sex that feels wonderful.
2. Do hang out and meet new people - For girls that can mean a lacrosse party, for guys a strip club. Just remember in all cases, don't say I love you.
3. Workout! This is the time to focus on how sexy and amazing you are. Nothing screams I'm over you then flat abs this summer, plus working out makes you feel great!
4. Read "It's called a break up because it's broken" and write a journal
DON'T:
1. Eat a gallon of ice cream. He's not waiting for you at the bottom, and would you really want to date a guy named Ben or a guy named Jerry.
2. Watch every chick flick ever made. That is not real life! I hate to be this honest but Matthew McConaughey probably isn't going to ask you to dinner. Plus, that takes time away from you meeting that guy (or girl) that will treat you wonderful.
3. Check his facebook profile a million times, and look through old pictures. Go out and make new memories.
4. Read: How to get your lover back. Let's be honest... if he isn't going to do everything to get you back, then you don't want him!
( I'll still include the link because some of you never listen)
And if all else fails, you can try what this girl has done: 31 dates in 31 days
http://31datesin31days.blogspot.com/
Love always ( don't you hate that)
Jessi
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